A 24-year-old woman who was a volunteer assistant coach of the boys’ basketball team at Seneca Valley High School in Montgomery County has been arrested and charged with sexual abuse of a 15-year-old male student, county police said Friday night.
Police said Jennifer M. Glad of Ferry Landing Circle in Germantown was charged with four counts of sexual abuse of a minor and four counts of a third-degree sexual offense.
At an alumni website, Glad is listed as having a location of Myrtle Beach, SC and working for CBS, studying to be a news anchor.
The Mindanao Conflict
Our focus on politics should not blind us to the continuing conflict in Mindanao which, according to reports, is now causing more displaced persons in the Philippines than anywhere else in the world. The government should concentrate on resolving the conflict with the Moro Islamic Liberation Front in order to stop the long-lasting human tragedy in that island of promise.
We should not depend solely on the good offices of our country’s neighbors like Malaysia and Indonesia to end the war. The government must itself initiate the resumption of peace talks with the MILF in order to convince our neighbors that it is sincere in achieving peace. Without sincerity on both sides, the Organization of Islamic Conference, and Islamic countries like Malaysia and Indonesia, might think it futile to help in the negotiations.
LOREN LEGARDA
eong animal”
A cougar is just a big cat on the hunt. Some say that I must embrace this new name for my role in the relationship. The internet slang dictionary says that a cougar is:
– from the internet –
Question: What is a cougar?
The short answer: A cougar is an older woman who is primarily attracted to and has sex with with significantly younger men.
Answer: The most commonly-accepted definition of a cougar is a woman 40 years of age or older who exclusively pursues very young men. The onset of the cougar
years is hotly debated. Some feel that a cougar can be as young as 35, but women of this age would not be viewed as cougars unless their sexual conquests
were no older than 25; the ten-year age difference seems to be an unspoken but accepted minimum between partners.
Typically, cougars prey upon men almost young enough to be their sons. Thus fortysomething cougars would be attracted to men in their 20s, and fiftysomething
cougars would pursue men in their 30s and so on. Some cougars are less interested in a relationship than a sexual conquest, perhaps enjoying the fact that
they are physically appealing to men who are considered to be in the prime of their virility.
A cougar may be married or unmarried, and some even go after their daughters’ boyfriends. [HOW DISGUSTING --- NEVER!!!]
Although the term ‘cougar’ comes from the big-game predatory cat of the same name, the cougar connection also may allude to the wearing of animal print
clothing by older and more sexually aggressive women.
An early example of the cougar phenomenom was seen in the groundbreaking film The Graduate, in which middle-aged Mrs. Robinson (Ann Bancroft) seduces fresh-out-of-college
Benjamin Braddock (Dustin Hoffman).
Real-life cougar relationships include Demi Moore and Ashton Kutcher (15 years), Susan Sarandon and Tim Robbins (12 years), and Barbara Hershey and Naveen
Andrews (21 years).
[Some negative responses to Cougars]
1. Cougars are pitiful
I think older women who are cougars have always been little sluts since high school. They have been drinkers, smokers, etc. and their emotional intelligence
and age is linked to of how old they were when they took that first drink. An older woman who messes with a male young enough to be her son is disgusting.
They can ruin young men forever. No matter how thin and physically attractive these so-called classy, sophisticated cougars try to be, the fact is they’re
still old. A woman with self-respect, morals, and principles would not act this way under any circumstances. 2. Cougars have sex with younger males to prove
they’re still sexy and still have what it takes. They don’t want to be with a man their own age or older who has erectile dysfunction as this makes them
feel unsexy – mot sexy enough for the older male to get it up straightaway – whereas a young man just thinks sex and has an immediate hard-on. Cougars
are selfish, calculating people who like to destroy relationships.
—Guest Sharri
3. To all the old cougars out there trying so hard to prove their point that society is in favour of older women/baby man relationships, it is time to come
out of your dreamworld and face the music. Admit it, it is all about the sex, never mind the personality, optimism and all that bull. Other women, especially
younger ones are laughing at you. A man at any age will spoil a woman in order to get sex….young baby men know it is easier and less expensive to seduce
an older woman, A young baby man knows he will be spoiled and will receive lots of gifts from an older woman. Older women know that a man who is their
same age or older can and will get young females age 20+ and that is why the male pool is less and you have to trap yourselves a baby man. Older women
(cougars) are not saintly. They have been around the block a few times and once they have tried/tasted/seen how easy it is to get baby men to have sex
with, they will have many (beware sexually transmitted diseases).
—Guest Denise
4. Cougars are wanton women in disguise. They are now divorced because of their infidelities of the past and now they want to live it up as if it was the ex-husband’s
fault. They are showing off by getting these young men. There is no lasting relationship that’s going to happen and lead to marriage. It’s basthe ically a
waste of time. The seductress only wants to satisfy herself, instead of waiting until the right man comes along because we all want to grow old with a
loving partner. Each year they play, they grow older and their chances of having a relationship is nil. When an older man comes along and hears via the
grapevine that his woman has dated younger men, he’ll be disgusted due to the social stigma attached. He’ll know that you are easy and must have had many,
many sexual partners down the line. He won’t trust you as he’ll think you’ll continue with this lifestyle and are not marriage material. Good luck to all
you cougars when you find yourself alone in an old age home!
—Guest Chantel
OK, that is enough.
1st, although I did try dating after my marriage had ended, I have not done so in more than 13+ years. My husband left because he wanted to be single. He was unfaithful. Imran and I did not even broach the subject of sex until we started talking about women’s issues. And, then, it was not in a personal way.
Me: “I just read a book on Female circumcision, is it really connected to Islam?” … … (I know the answer)
me: “what is this two men or four women who have to witness a rape? Can’t they just believe the woman, come on, what does she have to gain, especially in an Asian society like Pakistan” … … …
Imran: “I was sitting around with a group of guys and girls and they started talking about sex. One girl even admitted that she hated to (and was not currently) wearing a bra — do all american girls talk that freely and it sounds like she was trying to suggest that someone verify that statement.”… … …
Believe me: the issue is not about sex… … ahem, not that I won’t fully enjoy that part of my marriage, but, the possibility of a 20-something yo sex partner did not enter into my decision to have a relationship with him. I am not and have not been (by American standards) promiscuous. I don’t need his constant sexual desires to validate me as a woman.
And, if the truth be known, he pursued me, so I can’t say that I was “on the hunt.”
So, I analyze and evaluate what makes me interested in this guy.
Am I just misunderstood?
Does any of these comments have a point?
Of course, they do.
But, that is a stereotype and not my life.
It just happened that we, he and I, fell in love.
We shared some of the same interests.
We forged an emotional bond.
And, in the end, we can both see ourselves enjoying a normal married life with each other.
We have talked lots about
“power” because it is present in the age gap relationships, Muslim/Christian relationships and intercultural relationships.
But, this cougar thing is just rediculous and actually has no basis past stereotypes.
Now, I must admit here,
For Rebekah’s sake,
I did chastize her for dating someone who was 61 and she is 30.
I have apologized. While they might be stereotypical in their age-gap relationship, I should not have assumed these stereotypes.
Way to shame me into remembering that any stereotypes are not good to hold!
And, I have examined myself and Imran and know that any similarities to these stereotypes are do to our individual personality and they will not rule our relationship.
Ok, now I will admit that I am a bit sensitive about this whole age thing and was not even sure if I even wanted to blog it!
I don’t like the to be associated with such stereotypes.
From Betty Mahmoody to Mrs. Robinson — it is just a bit too tiring for me.
But, maybe someone else won’t feel alone because I have admitted it — and am not reveling in said situation because somehow I would fit some sort of stereotypes. All of these things do make our relationship much more challenging and sometimes I just want to bury tThhem all and enjoy all of the good. But, it is what it is and we can’t change it.
After analyzing several recent photos of Kate Gosselin’s body language with her new image makeover, initially, she appeared a bit awkward in getting used to her new look. But I must say in all fairness that would happen to anyone and personally, I think she looks fantastic with the long hair. It makes her look softer and less harsh. It showcases her pretty face. Hopefully, her behavior will begin to match her new attractive look and become more attractive as well. I hope that TLC, who has taken her under their wing, to do whatever they can to make her new show a success and not lose any more money, will invest as much time in giving her an inner makeover to go along with her outer makeover.
TLC’s DATNG REALITY SHOW TO FIND KATE A NEW MAN
From what I gather, TLC may do a dating type show with Kate to find her a new man. It will NEVER work in my view, no matter how many hair extensions they put into her head, if her inside isn’t made over like her outside
No man would ever want a woman who emasculates him, chastises him, or treats him like another one of her children. You can argue that she may have only acted like that with Jon. But if you believe in what Freud used to say, “what we don’t resolve we repeat,” she is destined for failure if she repeats her past.
Kate obviously has some unresolved anger and entitlement issues, among other issues that need to be resolved before she gets involved with any new man. We have all seen it up close and personal over the past few years.
TURN ON/ TURN OFF
I don’t think that her having 8 kids would be the turn off to a man. After all, those kids, from what we have seen are her biggest asset. While a man may be turned on to Kate’s new look, after spending time any with her I have no doubt any man would get turned off by her behavior – the narcissism and the selfishness.
There are even specific male female personality combinations, who if they get involved with one another, can be LETHAL, I discuss this in my upcoming book, TOXIC MEN- Identify, Deal With and Heal From Men Who Make Your Life Miserable, from Adam’s Media, which will be out later this year.
One such combination is the Control Freak with the Passive Aggressor. We have all seen this combination lay out with Control Freak Kate and Passive Aggressor Jon. We have all seen how it became LETHAL to the point that their actions showed that they BOTH “despised” one another.
CLEAN UP YOUR OWN ACT BEFORE YOU GET INVOLVED WITH ANY NEW MAN
A new “reality” show that doesn’t address the reality of what Kate’s role was in the demise of her marriage is not worth watching in my opinion. Unless the show get;s to the core of her issues, it will be like putting a dress or lipstick on a pig. It is still a pig.
If Kate fans and viewers have any high hopes for Kate succeeding in any relationship with man, they first to see her do a transformation on her inner self as well as her outer self. Now that would be a great show that I would like to see. Anything less than that is a waste of time. Seeing men come and go like the Bachelor or Bachelorette would be ridiculous. Of course at the end they would manage to get the kids approval so that would no doubt be TLC’s excuse for getting them on camera once again.
I have no doubt that of it came to that, Jon would have his say and not allow that to happen, They played hard ball with him and he will do the same. Meanwhile, as a sidebar if what police are saying- that Jon staged the Haley incident with her ransacking his home, Jon is in serious need of help. If he has filed a false report as a publicity stunt and acted in true Knute the Bear form, Jon and Kate’s 8 may be having to visit their daddy in jail.
CLEAN SLATE KATE
If she Kate truly committed to starting over and being “Clean Slate Kate”, as she stated, she needs to clean out her old slate first.
She can’t not address it or ignore it as she has done in the past. She needs to face her demons head on. This is essential if TLC is serious about doing a reality show and not some phony superficial time, mindless, wasting show. A great reality show is about a woman with a dirty slate who is ill equipped emotionally, transforms into having a clean slate where she becomes emotionally equipped to deal with all situations in her life, besides using ANGER!.
KATE MUST TAKE A MICROSCOPIC LOOK AT HER PAST TO CHANGE HER FUTURE
I believe she needs to understand exactly why her former marriage broke up and what her role was in it. She needs to know that although Jon has certainly not behaved well and continues to not behave well, and in my opining is seriously flawed, I feel that Kate’s abuse towards him for all those years had a lot to do with his going over the deep end. After all, how much abuse can you take on a daily basis and have it not affect you? Kate needs to admit this and be held accountable for her TOXIC behavior towards him. Her egregious behavior in the toy store and horrific behavior towards him in the travel store is forever etched in my mind.
Unless Kate learns what her role was in the Jon Kate mess, she will, like millions of others, continue to make mistake after mistake. I believe she needs to be re- educated in terms of how treat other and learn better communication skills other than SARCASM, ANGER, AND ME ME ME TALK. Her former non- communicative mantra when things are uncomfortable “I don’t wan’t to talk about it” just won’t cut in any new relationship, let alone any new makeover. She has to learn how to speak to others where she isn’t the central focus. And most of all she has to clean out her inner demons.
SEX APPEAL IN NOT ONLY IN YOUR HAIRSTYLE- IT IS YOUR COMMUNICATION AND BODY LANGUAGE
Obviously the long hair makeover was designed to give Kate more sex appeal. But there is nothing sexually appealing about a long haired bitch. Kate does seem awkward in terms of her body language with regard to her new image but that is understandable. She needs to change up her posture, her movements, and most of all that nasty facial expression complete with sarcastic raised eyebrow .
The long hair is only a small part of a sexy look. Without the rest- body language and facial language and voice pattern reflecting the inner change, as I said earlier, she would be nothing more than a bitch in hair extensions like a pig with lipstick.
And TLC needs to stop any campaign to call her a MILF. A MILF stands for Mother Is Love to F_ ck! That is not the image Kate’s kids need to hear about their mom.
FIRST STEP KATE NEEDS TO TAKE TOWARDS A NEW INNER IMAGE MAKEOVER
Before Kate finds any new man, she needs to first make peace with her parents, her immediate family and with herself. That is the only show I would like to see instead of witnessing her TOXIC behavior towards any new man. www.drlillianglass.com
